Personal Development

“It’s Only Rock and Roll, But I Like It” — Part II / The Soundtrack of My Trip!

My FAVORITE album of all time!!

My FAVORITE album of all time!!

As many of you know from reading my posts, my upcoming Epic Journey is about a few things: (1) Reconnecting with God and my spiritual side, (2) Finding peace in my life, (3) Learning to live on less – downsizing, (4) Meeting new people and experiencing the mysterious reasons why our paths have crossed and (5) Sharing about local businesses I find. Plus whatever happens along the way.

All that seems so serious and life-changing, but it should be fun too!! I hope to see sights like the biggest ball of yarn or anything that is off the beaten path. I hope to learn to quit stressing and learn to have fun again. It has been a really long time.

One of my favorite parts of planning the trip is what my Road Music is going to be!! I know I have to eat, sleep, bathe and stuff like that. But music is going to be my constant companion and I have some great music on my Kindle which I plan to enjoy on the way.

My favorite list of Road Music includes:

  •  “Sultans of Swing” by Dire Straits
  • “Sweet Home Alabama” by Lynyrd Skynyrd
  • “Long Black Road” by Electric Light Orchestra
  • “Bye Bye Love” by The Cars
  • Anything by Bad Company (my favorite!!)
  • Almost anything by AC/DC
  • “Fool for the City” by Foghat
  • “Lawyers, Guns and Money” by Warren Zevon (hopefully, I won’t need the first two!)
  • “No One Like You” by The Scorpions
  • “Keys to the Highway” by B.B. King and Eric Clapton
  • “(Don’t Fear) The Reaper” by Blue Oyster Cult
  • “Life is a Highway” by Tom Cochrane
  • “Can’t You See” by The Marshall Tucker Band
  • “Midnight Rider” and “Jessica” by The Allman Brothers Band
  • “Long, Long Way from Home” by Foreigner

I know it is like a playlist from Best of the 70s, but that is the best music for hitting the road, in my opinion. That is when I got the travel bug (in my teens), so I associate the music of the time with getting in the car and just going somewhere else.

Music has always been a huge part of my life. It kept me company on dark and lonely nights. It has helped me through the difficult times and it has been there for the triumphs. There is no way I can leave it behind on this trip.

I am sure I will cry when I hear “Tiny Dancer” by Elton John (I always do). I am sure when “Freebird” by Lynyard skynyrd comes on I will have to watch my speed (I tend to drive faster to Skynyrd). I know when I hear “Carry on My Wayward Son” by Kansas I will think of Dean and Sam Winchester as I always do. I guess I hardly ever listen to music for listening sake, it is usually tied to a memory for me. I do not know if that is normal, but it is for me.

So here is to the soundtrack of my life and the soundtrack of my journey. The music will make the trip better even if I cry occasionally!!

A really cool car that has nothing to do with this article!!

A really cool car that has nothing to do with this article!!

Failure or Indirect Success?

My new mantra!

My new mantra!

Many people who did great things failed time and time again before they reached their goals. It is well documented that Edison, Ford and more all lived with their failures and then triumphed. So why I am I here today feeling bad about all my failures in life? I guess because I feel like the failures outweigh the triumphs right now.

  • I failed my way out of high school
  • My first marriage failed
  • I received my Associate Degree but failed to finish my Bachelor’s
  • I failed owning my own online bookstore
  • My failed radio show career
  • I have failed miserably at knitting, crocheting, painting, and many other crafts

The list actually goes on…and on. Well, you get the point. Why do I bring it up today? Because a year ago I opened a little gift shop and just about everything went wrong from the start. I thought I would have be able to work another job, run the shop and keep up with all the other things life threw at me. I was wrong and the gift shop always suffered. Today I have to try to close it down and sell off the inventory. It is a sad day because I know in my heart I never gave it the attention it needed. During these times of questioning, the entire failure list always shows up again like an old friend saying “Hey, I’m here! Look at me!” It is hard to ignore the past. As I look forward to my upcoming Epic Journey, I worry that I will fail there also. I am expecting to do many new things and to learn a lot from all I experience. Then my mind starts thinking that I am too shy to meet new people every day, I am too weak to handle the grueling driving schedule, I am too soft to sleep in the car and eat rations and a myriad of other possible failure points.   Then I start to cease up with horror and fear that I am just wasting the money and time and that I should just stay home. A new part of my personality has started to emerge, one I think that comes only with age. This new part of me says that the only reason I failed so much is because I tried so much. Sure things could have come out differently, but those experiences made me who I am today; the person who is planning on taking an Epic Journey of self-awareness and awareness of others. What is the worst thing that can happen? I came back home with my tail between my legs. At least, I should have some really interesting stories! On the other hand, what if this is my success and I find a way a new, healthier way to live (I am trying to cut out all the extra stress in my life). What if I do, as many travelers say, come back changed? What if I see the world and it opens my eyes to all the wonder and amazement I have missed? History shows that I may fail on this Epic Journey, but I also think I am ready for a win (it has been a while). Maybe this will be my Thomas Edison or Henry Ford moment.   I will give it my best and shot and see what happens. No matter what it should be an interesting ride!! Thank you for joining me on this journey.

A Travel Planner, I Used to Be

I used to plan trips by air or car

With Hotels and motels never too far

Passports and Visas had their place

Among the tasks, I left a trace

I sat at my desk, in a seat

Wishing for the day I would meet

New and exciting travel sights

Go places, see things, and take some bites

Different worlds never did I see

A travel planner, I used to be

I know what you are thinking…don’t quit your day job and become a poet. Believe me, I agree. But in the middle of the night, I woke up and knew I had to write a poem about a job I used to have. Sorry to have subjected you to my mid-nocturnal rant.

It is actually true, though. I worked for many years being a Travel Coordinator. I started off basically as the liaison between a real travel agent and my co-workers who traveled. As the years passed, I learned more about the business through our agent and on my own. In a few years, with the help of a great travel program with Continental (when they had a hub in Cleveland), I was actually booking air, cars, hotels and trains myself.

The start was mostly conventions in Vegas or service calls in Phoenix. Trips to Chicago or LA, I could do in my sleep. Then came the international trips to Denmark, London, Paris and all over Asia. I learned about passports and Visas and what was necessary for traveling abroad. Many of my travelers were women who traveled alone and I tried to take special precautions to make sure they were safe.

I enjoyed the work very much despite the stress. Planning travel in the winter, in the Snowbelt, was a real challenge. Flights were constantly being cancelled or changed. Weary travelers desperately wanted to get home or not miss an important sales call. When I was neck-deep in it all, I learned to thrive on the chaos. Looking back now, I see a fondness for all my travelers and my desire to travel really took off then.

My husband was a road warrior for a long time. He traveled up to 75% of the time. He went to China, Mexico, Manila, Canada, and all around the United States. I guess I lived vicariously through him at that time. As I stated in a previous post, I was the one who kept the home fires burning.

I remember clearly that my desk faced a large window that overlooked a grassy spot surrounded by trees. It was an absolutely lovely spot. I would have my favorite music playing low on my computer and I dreamed of being the one taking the trips. I wished and wished I could break out of my life and see the world. I would look at the sun-soaked landscape and feel so alone. I knew I would never get to do those exciting things I helped others do. I was sad for a very long time.

But now I have the chance to do something really different. Although this trip has been done many times before by many other people, it has never been done by me. I have never planned such an undertaking before for something I would do.

I look back on those travel planning days and I am thankful for the knowledge I gained and the people I helped. I realize that I was not ready then to do what I am doing now. It was all part of the learning process. So here I am now, the traveler….no longer the travel planner I used to be.

Post Shout Out: Thank you to all the brave and wonderful women I worked with (you know who you are) who traveled alone. You are my inspiration and my courage. Love you all!!

What do the Numbers 9,726 and 28 Have in Common?

The route is not to scale, but it gives a general description of what the trip should look like.

The route is not to scale, but it gives a general description of what the trip should look like.

Yesterday, Mike figured out that my upcoming trip will cover approximately (give or take a side trip or two) 9,726 miles and will cover 28 different states.  I am a person who is easily overwhelmed and this to me is overwhelming.  How am I going to do this alone?  What was I thinking?  Am I crazy for taking this on for my first solo trip?

Then I realized I have a lot of people behind me, who want me to succeed.  I have my faith that God will provide and I know deep (really deep) inside I have the strength do this.  I am probably a little crazy for taking this on, but nothing worth doing is ever going to be easy.

I have spent most of my life not stepping out and trying anything different.  I have stayed on the safe course while longing for the strength to try something new.  When I did try something new, I always quickly reverted back to my safe shell.  Years pass and you realize that there are more check marks in the failure column than the success column.  I am tired of living afraid and I plan that this trip will be my “defining moment” where I stop being afraid, women up and do something scary and cool at the same time.

I have said this many times, but I could not do this without the support of friends, family and people I have not met.  The support I have received is overwhelming and I am going to do my best to add this trip to my success column.  Fear is only fear if I continue to let it be.  That is not to say that I will not keep a healthy dose of it just to stay safe, but I am talking about the unhealthy fear that makes you stop moving, tightens your chest and causes you to not breathe.  I am saying goodbye to unhealthy fear and hello to a new and improved me.

9,726 miles and 28 states….here I come!!

Thank you again for your support and love!!  I truly need it and appreciate it more than you will ever know!!